Some things take time.

Coconut the Toy-Poodle, English, Life

Some things take time.

Last week, a part of a book that I was reading caught my attention. It was about people being too optimistic when making decisions for important stuff in their lives. They think that their plans will happen in shorter time periods and base their expectations on the timing in their minds – which usually cause disappointments. I’ve noticed that I am a lot like this and I expect my plans to realize in the very near future. The more I make my plan perfectly, the less time I grant it to happen. But it is not how things work.

Success stories I hear from people, expectations of close friends and family from me, and my ego trying to prove itself to everyone can cause this situation of me trying to hurry about my plans.

I got enlightened with my pup Coco a lot. I try to mention the enlightenment coming through her time to time in my blog posts.

Since she joined the family, I watched many videos and read loads on pup training – potty, barking, crate training etc. All the sources were talking about the same thing; follow training steps but give some time. During this one year being with Coco, I had lots of miserable moments thinking that I won’t be able to succeed this and I won’t be able to train Coco. However, I never stopped and always tried to follow the instructions. Now, after almost a year, I realized that it is happening. She learned almost everything that I was trying to teach her through this year. It was like a miracle but it happened:)

This made me think of the phrase “give it some time”. I realized that the time mentioned in that phrase wasn’t as short as I was thinking of. It is much longer than I was expecting. It showed me that when you have a solid plan, you just have to take the right steps and wait for it to happen and not to give up when it doesn’t happen at your timing.

Have a great new year!

Love x

Relationships as Healers

English, Life

Relationships are the most important and clear teachers. They are the teachers mirroring the parts that needs healing the most.

Most of us get angry to our partners for getting triggered, but how about using these triggers to find the root of this trigger and start healing.

I just read about this simple practice to how to find the roots of our triggers.

Let’s work with an example. When I get hurt because I feel like my my partner looks at other woman;

1. State the trigger and how it makes you feel

You look at other woman and it makes me feel insecure.

2. Replace “you” your partner with “I”

I look at other women and it makes me feel insecure.

3. Does this feels right to you and make sense?

Sometimes it is really you partner being hurtful, but this is a good way to know the difference.

4. If you decide that the trigger is about your shadows, write the sentence to your journal and start working on that. Focus on the “I” word.

5. Try to fing the root by finding the accurate word for the trigger. In this example it can be “ugly” or “not being good enough”.

It works very good on me. Maybe you can give it a go.

Stay with Love xx

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Being a Hugger

English, Life, Yoga

What do you think about giving or receiving hugs?

I love it TBH.

It breaks all the distances and makes me feel like I am close to the person even if I just met him/her.

Especially in big cities with diverse nationalities, people are struggling to find a way to greet each other. Should we kiss one, twice or is just a handshake more than enough, or is it too distanced and cold? Of course, it highly depends on the occasion and where you meet that person. If we are talking about a business meeting there is no contradiction there and just a handshake will be enough and proper. However, when I think about the people we meet in our personal life such as friends of friends or a random person you meet in a pub or in an art gallery, I think we can be open for a hug.

The Sanskrit word Namaste literally means “I bow to you”. It is a greeting in the meaning that I am greeting your Divine Soul and Being.

When I greet someone and give them a hug, I feel like I am greeting their inner beings and I feel closer and more comfortable. I feel like I am spreading the energy of acceptance and love. And I see they smile and start catching my eye and building eye-contact more easily.

Even if you feel more distant and not feeling comfortable to give or receive a hug with everyone, you can start implementing this in your life with your close friends or family. You will see how surprised they will get and they will smile as a reflex. I even experienced people who start complimenting right after receiving a hug. It shows me that this makes them feel good in some way.

Only if you feel good you can make people feel good.

Namaste.

Stay Connected.

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New Moon and the Menstruation Cycle

English, Life, Yoga

Today is the new moon! 7th of December.

I love tracking the phases of the moon. I feel connected to the earth and nature by this.

Back in the day, women were having their periods in sync with the moon. The new moon meant the beginning of the menstruation cycle. Over years, the weaker our relationship has become with nature and so our menstruation cycles lost the sync with the moon.

After I learned this info, I started giving great importance to the moon and its phases and I try to feel the connection. For this, I am doing special meditations on the new moon and full moon dates, I pray on my intention and turning the phases to a ritual.

On the new moon, we can set new intentions and we can start something or plant the seeds to the universe. We can pray for new love, finding a job, opening up a business, starting a hobby or learning a language.

Controversary to the new moon ritual, on the full moon, we can finish what we have started or we can initiate on the unnecessary ties to get cut. For example, we can decide to outgrow a habit or end a romantic relationship, if they are not serving us well anymore.

The more we get connected to the moon, the more we can feel the connection with our body, mind and the mother nature.

TO DO LIST FOR TODAY

  1. burn sage, clean the energy of your body and the space you live in
  2. light a candle
  3. set your intentions
  4. write them to a paper
  5. meditate
  6. repeat them as much as it is needed until the full moon
  7. burn the paper with a ritual on the full moon

Speaking of the mother nature, I want to recommend you a song that I love to listen while doing my rituals and when I want to feel the connection with nature.

Hope you enjoy 🙂

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Living With Exaggeration

English, Life

I was always an overreacter, exaggerator, and a dramatic person all my life. Come on I am a Gemini 🙂

When I was a kid, my parents tried to make me “normal” and a calmer person. during my high school and university years, my friends or boyfriends were telling me to slow down and be “normal”. What is normal and why did have to I suppress myself?

After long years, when I look back, I realize that I had lots of friends and I collected lots of different memories compared to those people who were holding themselves back. During those times, I was judging myself and trying to act calmer and more stable. However, when I think about those days, I regret that I listened to the others and gave them great importance or felt guilty.

I feel like doing the things I love and want things over the top, isn’t something bad.

If you like to learn about something, anything, read it until your eyes get melted. If you feel like getting dressed up on a casual day, do it. Or if you feel like laughing loud, crying and shouting, do it all.

Love with passion. Even if your own lover finds your love “too much”, don’t hold yourself back from that feeling. Feeling something is good, and it needs encouragement.

And wear sun glasses on the cloudy days😏😎

Stay with Love x